Frotting, also known as frot or frottage, is a sensual, non-penetrative sex act that involves rubbing the penis against another person’s body — most commonly another penis. Rooted in the French word frotter, which means “to rub,” this practice is focused on the pleasure that comes from friction and closeness.

While typically associated with genital-on-genital contact, frotting can also involve rubbing the penis on various parts of the partner’s body, such as the thighs, belly, or chest. It’s an intimate act that doesn’t rely on penetration and can be enjoyed by all genders and orientations.

Why People Choose Frotting

Frotting offers a deeply pleasurable experience by stimulating the nerve endings of the penis through skin-to-skin or fabric-covered contact. It's often part of foreplay, but it can also serve as a satisfying sexual experience on its own — especially for those who prefer outercourse or want to avoid penetration for personal or health reasons.

In the late 1990s, activist Bill Weintraub brought frotting into the spotlight as a healthier and more egalitarian way for men to connect sexually. Frotting is often viewed as a more mutual experience, as both participants are usually equally active in the act, promoting a sense of balance and shared pleasure.

Frotting Isn’t Just for Gay Men

Though frotting is commonly associated with gay men, anyone can engage in this erotic activity. For those with vulvas, the equivalent might be grinding or tribbing (also known as scissoring). Similarly, heterosexual couples can enjoy frotting as part of foreplay — think of how popular the cowgirl position is, which involves friction and rubbing.

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Consent Comes First

Like all intimate acts, frotting must always be consensual. Any rubbing or grinding done without permission is considered sexual assault, regardless of the setting. To ensure mutual comfort, you can use a simple communication system like the traffic light method — green means go, yellow signals caution, and red means stop immediately.

Types of Frotting

There’s no single “correct” way to frot — it’s about finding what feels good for you and your partner. Here are a few popular variations:

Genital-to-Genital Rubbing

Two penis owners can align their erections and rub together, sometimes with hands or a sex toy between them for extra stimulation. Adding a penis ring or using a prostate massager can take the experience to the next level. For vulva owners, placing a vibrator between bodies adds delicious intensity.
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With Clothes On (Dry Humping)

Frotting doesn’t require nudity. Rubbing through clothing — like during a steamy make-out session — can be incredibly arousing. The added friction and anticipation can intensify the moment, especially for those who prefer indirect stimulation.

Body Rubbing

This variation allows one partner to rub their genitals against different body parts: inner thighs, breasts, stomach, or buttocks. A “thigh job” (where the penis is stroked between the partner’s thighs) is one creative example. Want to enhance the friction? Use one of our lubricants or toys.

Positions for Frotting

There are many ways to position your bodies for maximum connection and pleasure:

• Standing or Sitting Face-to-Face: Both people align their genitals and can use hands or toys to stimulate.

• Lying in Opposite Directions: This position allows easy access for handplay and optional anal stimulation.

• Face-to-Face, Lying Down: Ideal for deep intimacy, this can include genital grinding or mutual masturbation.

• Missionary Style Frotting: One partner lies on top of the other, mimicking a traditional position but without penetration.

• Shower or Bathtub Frotting: Water makes things slippery and exciting. Use silicone-based lube for underwater play and check out our waterproof sex toys.

Frotting Tips for a Better Experience

Get Inspired by Frot Content

Watching ethical frottage-themed adult videos can help you visualize techniques, experiment with new ideas, and get in the mood.

Use Lube Generously

Lubrication prevents uncomfortable chafing, especially during skin-to-skin frotting. Choose water-based lubricant if you’re using silicone toys, or silicone lube for longer-lasting moisture — especially in the shower. Stock up on premium lubes here.

Consider Protection

Even though frotting avoids penetration, there's still a slight risk of STI transmission. Wearing condoms or using latex barriers like Lorals can reduce risk, especially if you're not regularly tested.

Experiment with Sex Toys

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Final Thoughts: Frotting Is Sensual, Safe, and Creative

Frotting is more than just rubbing — it’s a powerful form of intimate expression. Whether you use it as a prelude to other acts or enjoy it as the main event, frotting lets partners connect through shared rhythm, sensation, and affection. With options to customize every session — from lube and toys to positions and pressure — it’s one of the most versatile forms of pleasure you can explore.

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